How to be an Introvert

Introduction

As an introvert (in particular an INFJ), I want to write down my thoughts about being an introvert and how I can improve or adapt to the society where extrovert personalities are more encouraged. 

The reason introverts are "disliked"

We could always hear people judge other's personalities. Comments like "You are a clever kid, but just too quite. You should speak up" often can be heard, which make introverts feel bad about ourselves: Is there anything wrong about me? Why is it so hard for me to change and be talkative and be social like others?

But we are not wrong. we are just born to be different. Because we are minorities (1/3 of the population), the society is designed more towards the needs of the majority (extroverts), and since most of people are extroverts, and since people will usually think in their own perspectives, we look "wrong" to them. Extroverts think we are too quite, but on the other hand, we also think they are too noisy, but our voices are buried by the majority's voice.

The reason we should appreciate of being an introvert

The introverted on average has higher IQ (especially IN people). We also tend to be more sensitive, and can notice the subtleties in the environment, which could be disturbing but also help us observe more information than others. For example, we could sense other's feelings, which sometimes could affect us but also helps us understand others better.

Even though the extroverts are better at dealing with people, they often need to rely on others to stay energetic and happy. However, I think it's better to get happiness from inside, without relying on anyone, and this is exactly us. The extroverts cannot stay on their own for a long time, but we will stay happy when alone. We only need to take some efforts to learn how to wear the "mask" when we are out for social activities and make ourselves more comfortable when wearing the "mask" and pretending to be social. Also, introverts really like deep thoughts than small talks or superficial things, and that's also one point that make me feel good of being an introvert.

Ways to help you be more "social"

• Keep in mind that no one really cares about you. No matter what you do, what you say, they don't really care, they only care about themselves, so just be confident and not care about what others think about you.
• Think of social activities as a study. I always like study new things and knowledge. Social activities are a burden to me, but we could think of it as a way to study people, study their behaviors and learn  and mimic their way of interacting with people and the way they talk. It sounds like a robot but yes, we can learn how to be social just like we learn math or just like a robot.